I often "check-in" by asking, "How are you doing?" And most of the time it's all good (meaning she is content, with no obvious needs or questions). And that IS good!
The Greek preposition "meta-" means "with" or, sometimes, "beside" or "on the side of." It is often used in words where a person can "step outside of the moment" and become an observer instead of the participant. It can indicate self awareness or reflection-- a "sideways look" where we "step outside" of the experience to "see" ourselves.
The other evening I asked, "How are you doing?" And in a meta-moment of pause and reflection she looked at me and said, "Sometimes I get so confused."
And she cried.
And I cried, too.
We're okay... but there are moments.